7 Kinds of “Friends” Who Sap Your Energy

We all have 'em: The friends (or acquaintances, relatives, or coworkers) who bleed you dry, whether of money, compassion, patience--or all of the above. They may not seem similar on the surface, and each may have a quite different M.O. But they all have one thing in common: They're starved for attention, and their appetite … Continue reading 7 Kinds of “Friends” Who Sap Your Energy

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Missing My Mom: Sounds, Smells, and Other Grief Triggers

You never know when a trigger is going to pop up. After 18 years without my mother, you'd think I'd be immune to them by now. I've learned how to avoid things that can ignite a crying jag--like the CVS aisles that house Aqua-Net Hairspray, Duracell hearing-aid batteries, and Efferdent. I generally avoid perfume counters, … Continue reading Missing My Mom: Sounds, Smells, and Other Grief Triggers

Life as a Highly Sensitive Person: The Little Things

I've always been highly sensitive—to everything, from emotional and intellectual stimuli to physical stimuli—to sights, sounds, smells, tastes, textures. As such, I am opinionated—not because I am trying to be difficult or judgmental, but because I truly sense and feel things to a sometimes extreme degree. For the most part, I consider my ability to … Continue reading Life as a Highly Sensitive Person: The Little Things

Silence

By May of 1979, I had seen two dead people in my life--three, counting the junkie who died on Sue DeNaro's front steps when I was 6, but I only saw him for a second, because my mother ran outside and scooped me up in her arms before I could see any more. The two … Continue reading Silence